Choice is great for human rights, but sometimes it doesn't feel like a choice. For a lot of women the pursuit of having it all includes extreme bouts of anxiety, self-doubt, insecurity, and depression. What woman -- or any person of any gender -- would choose that? It's because having it all in American culture isn't a choice -- it's a gendered expectation.

What if you were as kind to yourself as you are to your best friends? Using a self-compassionate approach to your areas of growth can simplify the process. Being kind to yourself means there are no extra layers of judgement, isolation, or over-thinking that can stand between you and your goals.

The approaching new year creates a universal hope that the trials and tribulations of this year don’t plague us in the next. The hope that things will be different in the new year, and you’ll finally be happy or successful or fulfilled, and that you know just what you have to do to get there. But, sometimes we can take these goals a bit too far and this layer of urgency can make our new years resolutions unhealthy.

One of the hardest parts of a break up is figuring out what’s yours and what belonged to the relationship. The thought of sorting it all out can be overwhelming and sometimes it might feel like the best thing to do is just forget about dating altogether. But you deserve the effort it takes to move on and get back out there — whatever you want that to look like.

If you only give yourself kindness when you’ve done everything right, are you really giving yourself kindness? Sometimes it’s easier to look in the mirror and ignore the parts you don’t like. But the parts of your identities that are most difficult for you are the parts that need your love most.

Dating can be hard. It’s exhausting building up all the energy to get all cute, meet someone new, and put yourself out there, only to find yourself on the fifth first date of the month. If you’re stuck in a dating rut, you might be wondering: am I the problem?