Connection is one of the basic human needs. We need each other, not only to survive, but to be fulfilled, to make meaning, and to develop purpose. ]We see that people in healthy, secure relationships are able to welcome and adapt to change whereas other attachment styles cannot.

If you only give yourself kindness when you’ve done everything right, are you really giving yourself kindness? Sometimes it’s easier to look in the mirror and ignore the parts you don’t like. But the parts of your identities that are most difficult for you are the parts that need your love most.

Dating can be hard. It’s exhausting building up all the energy to get all cute, meet someone new, and put yourself out there, only to find yourself on the fifth first date of the month. If you’re stuck in a dating rut, you might be wondering: am I the problem?